Cyrus Draegur

Poly-Panro-Ace It/They friendly neighborhood wholesome degenerate abomination from beyond the stars (mostly harmless™). Atomic energy enthusiast. Architecture enjoyer. Mecha appreciator. Sci-Fi reader. Winged caniform bipedal warforged magitech cyber-lich in its dreams.

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  • “just be friends” can often be a way to euphemistically say “fuck off and leave me alone” because a girl who actually says “fuck off and leave me alone” out loud for real runs the risk of a fragile, shallow, unhinged, emotionally unstable man going berserk and MURDERING her.

    Obviously nobody likes to hear this but it DOES happen–not every time but it does not need to be every time in order to factor as a risk; like how “every gun is ALWAYS loaded–ESPECIALLY a gun that is ‘Not Loaded’!”

    The list of people who are murdered for refusing a romantic advance gets longer every day, and the unfortunate truth is that the majority of the victims on that list are women, and that the majority of the perpetrators on that list are men. Statistically speaking, it is simply a matter of common sense precaution to hedge the possibility of a violent reaction by offering “friendship” in the hopes that the other party will be de-escalated enough to not flip out.

    That said, I have managed to maintain friendships with some of the people I’ve previously had romantic feelings for, but it took me bridging the honesty gap FOR them: actually offering them the chance to clarify; that they face no danger in being direct with me and that I both CAN and WILL in fact peacefully go fuck off forever if that’s what they actually meant. Thinking back, there’s only two ex partners who didn’t want to talk to me at all anymore after the romantic stage crashed. The fact that it’s non-zero though, that there was even ONE person who was initially lying when they offered “consolation prize friendship” (although forgivably because they were just protecting themselves), tells me all I ever needed to know.







  • The snopes article indicates that the study cited for reporting Tesla cars to have the most fatalities per billion miles driven cannot be validated

    In sum, while the claims across social media are correct in saying a study did find Tesla to have the highest fatal accident rate of any car brand, the study itself uses data that is not available to the public. Therefore, although this does not mean the data is incorrect, it does mean that ensuring the study’s accuracy is not possible at this time.




  • Cyrus Draegur@lemmy.ziptoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldRed hat = No cat
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    9 天前

    A good chunk of these dudes are closeted self-hating homosexuals projecting and lashing out so they aren’t even TRULY motivated by lacking “a woman” except in which how much it frustrates them that they can’t feel an attachment toward these people whom they have been told are the trophy awarded for their hardships. Which is delusional and stupid of course.

    Obviously it’s not a bad thing that they’re gay; it sucks that they hate themselves and feel motivated to balance it by pretending that those aspects of themselves which they hate are things for which they hate others harder. If they didn’t hate so much, maybe they’d have a shot at being happy.

    Oh well. They live in a hell of their own creation. Serves them right.







  • Cyrus Draegur@lemmy.ziptoAutism@lemmy.worldWho is here?
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    I’m one of the lucky few for whom a non-stimulant works.

    Strattera paired with a low dose of Wellbutrin because my psychiatrist knows there’s risk of interaction if I take too much Wellbutrin.

    It’s incredible having agency again, agency that doesn’t fade every few hours because ritalin would wear off and I forget to take the next dose because it wore off.

    Also stimulants can make the body form a tolerance that subverts their effects eventually x_x but honestly I’m grateful to see ANYTHING working for ANYONE.

    The reason I didn’t seek treatment for most of my life was because I didn’t want to believe that ADHD was real. I wanted to believe it was nothing more than an imaginary first-world-problem “affluenza” that only afflicted people who were too fortunate to have REAL worries challenging their survival. I wanted to believe that I could just LEARN to ‘be better’.

    HAHA NOPE, that shit wrecked me for the prime years of my life.