cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790
does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I’m fine.
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are you me?
I can fix you.
So, a dumpster fire, but 10 years later?
Reminds me of comedian, James Acaster saying that dating is just learning more about a person and slowly realizing that you don’t like them as much as you hoped you would.
“I should have warned you, some of the jokes are sad.”
Is this the BPD flag?
no
As someone who had a few contradictory opininions from different doctors, one of which being BPD, it does sound a bit like something similar to what I sometimes experience, both easily getting to obsess over someone and to “forget” and to have to force myself to care later
I would recommend professional help to OP, even tho I am somewhat skeptical of psychiatry myself (in the “its a new science and not rigorously measurable way”). It’s not your friend’s/partner’s/etc. job to fix ya, and I myself ended up wanting to punish people for caring about me, that shit can break ya really suddenly, don’t ignore early signs
Looking forward to better diagnostic tools for Relational 'TSDs than sorting pink blankets into Borderline and blue blankets into anger issues/not needing healthcare. The academics are working but we’ll have to chemo the fascism to get grant money going to human services again lol
That was my exact thought. Just the comprehensiveness of the pattern lol.
ain’t got any plans for the day, hit me up
You had me in the first half
Are the humans okay?
Newp!
Pass. We could be friends, though.
When the mental illnesses sync up like how the planets align: the moment is rare, beautiful, frightening, exciting, and fleeting
Real
Omg yes
I’m not sure about the unprotected sex
If you’re exclusive and both have no STDs, why not?
if you’re both cis, surprise baby
Oh right, straight sex. Duh. I suppose there are reversible surgical options to prevent conception, but I imagine most people don’t do that. Completely slipped my mind that sex can result in children because of how that has never affected me, despite my wife and I joking about trying to get each other pregnant all the time.
Does this seem the kind of person who either gets tested for STDs or has had so few partners that they have practically no chance to pick up an STD?
Getting tested is easy and usually free. I get tested just for the hell of it every time I see my endocrinologist. Seems like most people I meet for hookups also get tested relatively frequently. It’s just way easier when you can show a potential partner a recent health report.
Yeah, but we’re talking about a walking dumpster fire here (according to OP).
🫠 im so in
Why the fuck would you out me like this
Fuck it.
Im in but i would also need to include some pretty harsh emotional abuse.
This is probably due to my personality but why would people go into a relationship just to end up abusing each other!?
right? i want a relationship because i have a deep twisted need to give a cute person breakfast in bed and see them smile
For a serious answer, bad mental wellbeing
Many people don’t know how relationships are supposed to work, they only have had bad experiences and lack perspective, they had bad parents which thus weren’t good role models, or they have mental health issues such as low self-esteem, or anxiety, or maybe even paranoia, and so on
There’s a whole host of reasons, but none of those reasons are rational. They’re broken results from struggling people. It’s important to try to be self-aware and figure out one’s issues to avoid things end up like this
I see. Interesting, that seems to be the opposite of me – I’ve had so few relationships because I never feel quite ready mentaly and so I’m very cautions.
But how will ibknow it’s love if we dont hurt each other and leave each other terrible ruined husks? What will i have ro remember her by after it’s over if not the emotional scars?
If you want something to remember her by and to also get her to remember you, the passwords
How many passwords can you fist?
As many as the keyboard can handle 😏
