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  • InputZero@lemmy.worldtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    13 hours ago

    Okay young one, we have a few things to get through.

    First, you should feel whatever you do feel. It’s not as embarrassing to have your parents help you than you might think. You’re in your early 20s, which means most of your life experience comes from when you were a child and embarrassing parents were a social death sentence. You’re an adult now and to a lot of older adults stuff like that becomes insignificant compared to other things. That said if you feel embarrassed, you feel embarrassed, there is no should to feelings.

    Two, I suggest you tell your Dad that you appreciate what he’s trying to do, and that you’ll go on the date (because I think you should). You need to tell him that doing this without keeping you in the loop made you feel uncomfortable. He’s trying to help and it comes from a good place but the execution was a little off.

    If he doesn’t listen or it still feels wrong you have to tell him that too and ask him to stop. Still I suggest you try it out.

    Third, go easy on yourself. Finding a partner is not easy, and at your age you’re going to make mistakes, big ones but that’s okay. That’s what living is. Just make sure you don’t an STI or you or someone else pregnant. Unless future you is trying to have a kid, in which case good luck!



  • InputZero@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyzMD = oMega Dumbass
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    3 days ago

    But if they’re not listening, you just gotta call them stupid weirdos and make them feel uncomfortable in public. Make their friends laugh at them, make it seem like your side is having more fun. The fear of being excluded will eventually pull them over, willingly or not.

    I’m glad that you’re engaging with the topic, but that suggestion won’t help. Publicly embarrassing someone who is holding onto an emotional belief like ‘I can never trust the companies that make vaccines.’ just pushes them to double down. Vaccine hesitancy and how to address it is a well studied topic and any form of attack just pushes the person into defense mode.

    The best solution is actually compassion from those the vaccine hesitant most love and trust. Vaccine hesitancy begins with a lack of trust in the medical profession. Which may or may not be well founded, the medical community has some bad people in it.

    Regardless, saying to your loved one “Okay you don’t trust the scientists, but you do trust me, and I trust the science on this one.” Is much more effective than arguing or publicly embarrassing someone.




  • Speaking as someone who worked cash as a teenager/young adult, no we don’t want to fucking talk to you. I was there because I liked money and that was a reliable way to make minimum wage. That’s it. I didn’t have a passion for scanning items and asking for payment. I had tuition to pay and debt racking up. I wasn’t there to chat with you, or improve the customer experience. I was there to get paid and I can tell you that most if not all of the other cashier’s were in the same boat.










  • Me neither, it implies that dating is just basic stats. Which no, because dating preferences aren’t independent variables. If you score low with a potential partner on a particular quality that doesn’t mean they’ve rejected you, unless that quality is a deal breaker. They are variable’s that are dependent to and from other variables, how are you with pets, are you pursuing a life goal you have set out for yourself, how are your relationships with others, ect.