Lemmy.zip is nice, but I think my definitive home is going to be lemmy.today because it’s even closer to lemm.ee in federation (or that was my impression).

Probably “Millennials” hating that you’re too young to claim their tag, and “Zoomers” hating that you’re too old to claim theirs. Whatever. We are the mid-90s (even 90s) babies, and that’s a cool name even if a little longer.

I’ve learnt some “hacks” from How to ADHD (both the YouTube channel and the book).

Something that works for me is “bribing” myself. Either with a planner you enjoy filling, a calendar with stickers, or a reward like TV time or music (not food), give yourself a reason to do your activities beyond the activities themselves.

Another one that’s not always possible for me, but works, is getting non-negative external pressure. Deadlines often get people to start, but that’s too much stress, and we don’t want that stress. A similar thing to a deadline without the anxiety is body doubling. It consists of doing your activity while other person or people do theirs, and you can report back in the middle or only at the end. The idea is that you feel like you need to do it because people are counting on it, without it being super stressful. You might feel watched, you might feel their expectatives on you, you might simply want to exchange your results at the end. However it goes, it might work for you. A variant of this is telling your plans to someone important and then you’ll feel like you need to do it so you can tell them how it went.

My emergency remedy (only when I’m unmedicated for ADHD, because I wouldn’t mix it with my medication): caffeine. Caffeine is a stimulant, so it has interesting effects on people with ADHD. Depending on age, metabolism, and quantity, it can be relaxing or “quieting”; it can also help with focus; and it can give a boost to productivity. A cup of good coffee and I do the laundry, cook, write back to people, etc. Now, be careful because a) you can become hooked to caffeine and become one of those people that cannot function without it, b) even without an addiction, if you use it too much, your body will get resistant for a time and it will lose its effectivity, c) some cannot tolerate caffeine well, for example, people with cardiopathies or bipolar disorder. I cannot drink it for long without causing havoc in my sleep and mood. Be careful with caffeine.

And those are the strongest for me. I do recommend getting the How to ADHD book, even if you’re not dealing with ADHD but a mood disorder, a difficult time in your life, etc. The tips are helpful nonetheless.

Star Wars: The Last Jedi for me. I don’t remember details, but I remember liking it and thinking it was nice to bring original things to the saga (especially because episode VII was almost a tribute to episode IV). Then fans complained and they reverted a lot of themes and things 💔.

My experience is the opposite. Adolescence was horrible, young adulthood was hard, adulthood has been better. I am taking care of myself and I am happy with my relationships.

I mean, he can be seen as another Luigi Mangione. The Luigi not of oligarchs but of genocidal people, which, at the end, are the same people (Trump, Thiel, Musk, Netanyahu, etc.). It is, again, a person acting violently about a situation that has many of us disturbed.

Yes, his name happens to be in Spanish; I do not see how that’s damning for other Hispanic people. And I say this as a person that has no opinion about this type of violence (I cannot discern if it’s justified or not), and as someone of mostly Hispanic heritage. I do not know if I support this Rodríguez man, but I can understand his reasons.

I’ll miss Sync. Thunder is nice, though.

1, preferably. 20 if I forget doing the laundry…

The land was already discovered, by the people living in it and even by outsiders like the Nordics. The people from the Pacific islands (I don’t know if the correct term is Polinesia) are also said to have come into contact. From the 15th-16th century onwards, some outsiders decided to destroy civilizations and claim the lands. Yes, the modern nations wouldn’t exist without imperialism and colonization, but I think many indigenous people would have preferred to develop and see the rise and fall of their nations during those centuries (and into the present) without said imperialism and colonization. My latter point is that it is not a “flex”, in case you were thinking it is.

I don’t read enough to consider myself a nerd; I’m kind of ignorant. But… I do like nerd topics.

This video contains a great analysis of it.

PTSD/C-PTSD too. Trauma can lead to a state of numbness and partial dissociation, like you’re just floating (kind of apathetically) through your own life.

Huh? I explicitly said I would separate self defense for both sexes, because I believe those aren’t what we are talking about. I wasn’t defending or excusing “women”.

Also, both women and men kill because of serious mental disorders (‘insanity’ in legal terms in the U.S.). How many of those maternal infanticides can be explained by post-partum psychosis or similar conditions? I wouldn’t count murders by insane people (from neither sex).

I suspect you’re not as unbiased as you’d think…

How many of those were self-defense (from either sex)? I wouldn’t mix them for this discussion.

Ecce Homo is… interesting. Quoting Tears for Fear:

And I find it kind of funny
I find it kind of sad

It’s one of his last books and it’s obvious his eccentricity is bordering madness already. It contains chapters like “Why I Am So Wise”, “Why I Am So Clever”, “Why I Write Such Good Books”, and “Why I Am a Destiny”. Some scholars say it’s a provocative or sardonic way of presenting an autobiography; I wouldn’t be so sure.

Thank you, although I’m just a master of none… Yes, I imagine looking for a job with a philosophy degree is limiting. On TikTok, I’ve noticed some recent graduates working on self-made projects (magazines, private classes, etc.). That’s a creative solution that I hope works out for them.

My battery usage says I spend around half my time on TikTok. I also spend some considerable time here on Lemmy and chatting on Discord, Signal, etc. The third place is for reading. Sadly, I spend more time than I would like on shopping apps, and the rest are usually in the ‘< 1%’ (phone settings, e-mails, etc.).

I guess the only healthy suggestion is reading.

I’m sick and tired of this Reddit-ass kind of “advice” meant only for neurotypical white men. Male defaultism is one of many things we should not import here.

Too late… Or maybe it was already like this before we migrated from Reddit. Comments are very black-and-white and tend to favor men over women, STEM over other fields (just read the comments here), global north over global south, etc. It’s obvious who the majority is and how biased the opinions are.

It is funny because Lemmy is the leftiest site I know, and still these problems are invisible.

I didn’t graduate in philosophy, but the little I know about it is useful every single day.

I guess monetary success is capricious in philosophy; they all cannot be Chomsky or Žižek (because unfortunately intellectual stardom is reserved for a few by definition in any given field). Also, academic environments are depressingly unfair and are influenced by ridiculous factors more than they should. But is money all there is to life for someone that most likely loves to learn, to ponder, to explore? Answers might vary among them.

My first Nicole message was today. You’ll join the club eventually.