Seriously. This all sounds exhausting. It was probably a good move to loop in the manager. If it were me, I probably would have just stepped back from them and kept my distance, as I have little energy for drama, but taking a more proactive approach was probably smart.

But yeah, you OP did the smart thing, now the next smart thing is just step away from all of it. Keep some distance and let the manager/director sort it out.

I’m disappointed the baseball cap and beer isn’t A and anything but salad in the D spot so that there is a clear “Dada” option.

Guys, this is nonsense ragebait. Move on.

Like, I get trusting Fox News makes no sense given their track record, and a bunch of those are just blatantly untrustworthy…

But if you trust The Joe Rogan Experience as a News sources, you’re a moron of the highest degree. It doesn’t even set itself up as that. Joe Rogan himself regularly refers to himself as an idiot and you shouldn’t follow what he says, he’s just giving an opinion. The opinion of someone with no expertise. Whose claim to fame is as a comedian and such high-brow commentary as UFC fights and making white Americans eat bugs and bumble about in the dark.

I feel like I have a Fallout style health bar, but instead of rad counters it’s old age counters. My max available HP drops over time, with the space being filled up with pain. Not to mention permanent debuffs like “arthritis,” and “bad knee.”

If someone has to ask you a second time to repeat yourself, you should feel embarassed and apologetic, not them.

Held it a loooong time.

Attack the Capitol and kill a cop in an act of sedition: they sleep.

Drive a teenager to a woman-friendly state to get an abortion: real shit.

Like an elephant. Up the urethra, then squirted into the mouth.

Wishing someone was dead and believing that the government should have the authority to do that are two very different things, though.

BC seems like it has more in common with the rest of the west coast than Alberta.

So when slavery for non-criminals ended, they just started making more black criminals (and criminals in general).

I don’t think it’s pedantic to say that slavery is still legal when there is an entire industry built around that currently legal slave labor.

Sometimes they need some help.

An “in-law suite” is different from renting a room. It generally has its own entrance, and a devoted kitchen and bathroom. It’s an entire 1-bedroom apartment built into the house or property (often above a garage, for example).

And it’s not slang, it’s a term that’s been used since the early 1900s, and as the term suggests, it has historically been used to be able to care for elderly parents (so they can maintain their independence while still living with family). It’s not like you can sell an in-law suite separately, and selling one’s house while a parent doesn’t need that and expecting to not only buy another house and having one available with an in-law suite when a parent does need it is a pretty extreme expectation. So it really does come down to rent the room or leave it empty.

And plenty of people want that kind of temporary rental, if they don’t want to be tied to a particular spot for long or don’t want the responsibility of owning.

In college I had a guy friend (I’m a guy, both of us straight) who I’d regularly go to breakfast with, and he always paid because I was very poor, he made plenty, and he wanted company for breakfast. I regularly tried to pay and he waved me off. I think he knew that if we went back and forth, we’d go to breakfast a lot less because I wouldn’t be able to afford it.

Maybe that’s what’s going on here.

I’m 42 and it has worked out pretty well so far, honestly.

I joined the military, got good reviews (called “marks” for us), and tested well when I tried. Now I make good money, have the support of a lot of people in different departments and largely able to work on the projects I want, have gotten my #1 pick for station every time I have had to transfer, and will be retiring in 4 years with a bunch of ties to the community to keep me involved with things I enjoy after.

I get a lot of this is luck, and privilege (e.g. not everybody can join the military), and other factors. And regardless how hard I worked, many things ended up being popularity contests, so I missed some opportunties that way. But at no point did I feel like being nice and hardworking worked anything but in my own favor.

Pretty sure the ones at my work (only by the higher-ups and the people responsible for ordering stuff) don’t have presets. So since my desk was just outside my boss’ boss’ door, whenever he was out I would pop in and move his desk halfway up. That way, every single time he walked in to use his desk, he’d had to move it whether he wanted to stand or sit.

I didn’t dislike him or anything. I (and every person I told to do it when they went into his office) just thought it was funny.

This is an open ended attempt (with some frustration) to try to under why members of the community do certain things.

I am fine with not commenting in women-only spaces, but that is very much not what OP is trying to do. OP is venting and using a rhetorical question they don’t seem to particularly want an answer to. Is that “requesting support?” Does that extend to emotional/moral support?

I think if the OP is complaining about not following the rules and spirit of a community when posting, it seems appropriate to point out if they are violating the rules (and spirit) of the community they post it in.

Look, I’m not about to post comments myself in those places, but happening upon one recently after a previous post like this, I noticed how poorly the rule was displayed.

Each post should have a stickied mod comment at the top stating commenting is for women only. Otherwise it’s easy not to notice what community the post is in that you’re responding to, especially on mobile.

You can expect people to know the rules of any community before posting, or take the time to look, or whatever, but the only person you’re hurting is yourself for having those expectations.

If your community is public, the onus is on you (or rather, the mods of the community) to make it as clear as possible what the rules are, if they exclude people or go beyond “be civil.”

I had to explain to people that I relaxed after a few drinks because the more I drank, the less was going on in my mind. It’s like one of those annoying user interfaces that pulls up a description box every time you mouseover anything, except it’s analyzing things or hypothesizing about stuff, or going down some rabbithole hased on something somebody said. All while 1-3 songs are going on in my head.

I’ve managed to quiet most of it down as I’ve aged (and realized that exhaustion, which was my constant state, horribly exascerbated the issue). But my mind was exhausting to be in, so being out and overstimulated without something to dampen the inner voice was torture.