• MTK@lemmy.world
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    5 个月前

    Ah yes, “cocksucker” as the first insult to come to mind, the sign of a good person

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        It implies that for a man, sucking cock (a legitimate sexual act for any gender) is an insult because that would make him gay. So Homophobic.

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          imo the pejorative connotation of that word, and homophobia generally, is ultimately rooted in misogyny

          "always has been" meme with "wait, it's all about maintaining the patriarchy?"

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          ok?

          So what if i just argued that “cocksucker” just meant that you would suck someones cock if you got you something. I.E. you’re easily bribed/manipulated. As far as i know, that’s how most people use it.

          That’s literally the implication like 99% of the time. If you wanted to insult someone for being gay, you would just call them a faggot or something lmao. No need to mince words at that point.

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            That’s still degrading to fellators.

            And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

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              find me people who suck cock that actually give a fuck about other people calling people cocksuckers and we can talk.

              And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

              nobody is arguing that sucking cock is submissive??? The argument is that being a cocksucker is a submissive thing.

              Or you trolling? Or are you actually serious?

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              its still at the end of the day giving pleasure to another. giving the key word: power thing. its the same atmosphere as bootlicker

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                If you think going down on someone is only a submissive act you haven’t gone down on someone long enough, or teased them enough.

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                Being submissive in sex can be expressed in a blowjob, but so can being dominant. Most sexual acts can be either dominant or submissive under the right context. For example a person can forcibly (consensually) throw the other person down, pin them to the floor and start going down on them while not letting them orgasm. Is the person being overpowered and forced to be frustrate by not orgasming the one in power?

                Your understanding of mutual respect and love is unhealthy if you compare going down on someone to bootlicking.

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                  im comparing an insult to bootlicking. jesus christ you people really feel like arguing over absolutely nothing

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                    I think you are missing the point, which is that “cocksucker” should not be used as an insult because it’s homophobic. Even if you personally identify it as a power dynamic insult, it does not change the fact that it is rooted in homophobia and that the OOP most likely used it without any thought as to its meaning and history but rather it just came to him as a viable insult (internalized homophobia)

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                Okay but like, in regular penis-in-vagina sex, the man is (theoretically) giving pleasure to the woman while also doing all the work. Is that still power play? Is pussyfucker the same as cocksucker?

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                  pussyfucker isnt an insult ive ever heard but motherfucker is

                  cocksucker reminds me of the prison mentality of making someone your bitch so thats where im getting the power play from

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                    Exactly, pussyfucker isn’t an insult because traditionally there was nothing wrong with fucking pussy, but calling someone a cocksucker is implying they’re either gay or a woman

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                  i mean yeah, pussyfucker if you used as an insult would be quite a weird insult to throw, but it would work i suppose.

                  Motherfucker is also in the same vein like the other commenter suggested.

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                So, if you were to replace ‘cocksucker’ with ‘towelhead’, slut, Yid, or Nig*** would that still just be a power thing?

                Not that it actually makes a difference. This ‘power thing’ you refer to is controlling abuse for self interest. Introducing a predudice is just a way of trying to justify and/or hide the abuse.

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                    No, the discussion was not about whether different words were of equal or differing offensiveness. My discussion is about what saying ‘it’s a power thing’ actually means and how it relates to abusive behaviour.

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            He could have also said “vaginalicker” but he didn’t, he used a well known homophobic slur. Also, if he wanted to say submissive he could have used well known submissive insults.