This is becoming more common in my town. I just either feel like an ass saying I dont have cash, or lying, but I also can’t be giving out 20’s to everyone who asks.

I feel bad for most of them but at the same time I get anxiety walking down the sidewalk and seeing someone up ahead that I know is going to ask me for money. Its not like you can say “oh no, I donate to services that help the needy” because that person isn’t necessarily being helped by that. And ignoring completely feels so mean, plus I tried that one time and the person was screaming at me as i walked away that I ignored them.

I also dont want my city to round them up and send them to prison camps, something they are planning and that I know a lot of people would vote for just to “get rid of them” but im not supporting that at all.

Its tough.

  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    My grandmother who raised me always did the “I don’t have any money on me” thing. And I always followed suit until pretty recently. But I got to thinking more about it and eventually concluded that I should always keep a $20 or two in my pocket ready to give.

    And then the pandemic came along and I didn’t go out much. And now I work from home full time and don’t often go anywhere that I’m likely to run into folks asking for money. But I have put that into practice a few times and felt good about it.

    There was a woman with a sign standing outside the post office. I ignored her on the way in with the intention of giving her a $20 on the way out. And I made good on that intention. It was scary, but only because I’m kindof an agoraphobe. Heh.

    I do have the means to go handing out $20s willy-nilly. And of course with how infrequently I’m likely to pass folks asking for money out in the world, the rate at which I give is tiny. But I do give when that situation comes up.

    I’m not saying you should give $20s out to folks. But if your financial situation is stable, I’d say you should give what you can in those situations.

    And the fact that these thoughts/questions/concerns are rattling around in your mind are probably a sign of personal growth, so good on you for that.