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  • I was not orphaned but was homeless at 18 due to escaping an abusive environment. I’ve gone through my adult life with no safety blanket and it has profoundly impacted my anxiety and need for control. I’ve managed to build a great life and I’m very successful on paper, but people don’t see the backup plans upon backup plans that I have in-place to have some sort of feeling of safety.

    I’ve also found it very hard to relate to people my age because they usually have some sort of relationship with their family and often times move back in with parents when shit hits the fan.

    I also still feel very unloveable by everyone around me and I’m suspicious whenever someone shows affection, because it feels like a trick - or even if it does feel legitimate, I know that they’ll hurt me eventually. That’s been a big topic in therapy recently.



  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoMemes@lemmy.mlLazy moochers
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    16 天前

    If it’s any consolation, I’m in an 8-unit owner-occupied condo rn and my kitchen ceiling collapsed last week because the HOA refused to fix a roof leak for almost two years. So now what should have been a couple hundred dollar roof patch is thousands of dollars coming out of my HOA payments.


  • It’s really interesting that rent can only raise by a small amount each year there. I’m rolling around in my head whether that would work in the US. What happens when the assessed value of the property raises over the years and causes the taxes to skyrocket? Do the landlords just sell the place in that case? I could see that being a good way to keep the market moving and give people a chance to enter owner-occupied homeownership.







  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldSo proud!
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    21 天前

    Not gonna lie, I had no idea until this post that “mansplaining” was strictly considered male behavior. I’ve had women do the same thing when I’m in spaces or situations that are traditionally female dominated, and figured that “mansplaining” was the appropriate descriptor for that. TIL.



  • Strong disagree. You can absolutely be friendly with coworkers and enjoy working with them without crossing the boundary into your personal life, and this is usually the best for long-term happiness at work. This is especially beneficial whenever people change roles and move to management - it’s exceptionally difficult to be a manager to a friend.


  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoGreentext@sh.itjust.worksAnon is rude at work
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    24 天前

    Any company culture that expects you to be friends with your coworkers is a dumpster fire. Run quickly.

    I’ve worked in my current office for two years and don’t know the first thing about any of my coworkers beyond their name and specialization. No clue if they’re married or have kids, or what they do on the weekend. We never chit-chat. I am infinitely happier here than anywhere I’ve worked in the past.